A sacred relation built out of total understanding of being one with somebody whom you had never seen before the first time you met? A way by which we play the biggest gamble of our life to make ourselves combine into oneness with the person you learn to love?
What is marriage...is it better that what I have written above, or it sums up to something similar to what I uttered above?
I have read many books on fascinations, books that relate God to your successful leading of life. Even while we have not seen this ultimate supernatural, we believe in God! What makes us trust him, love him, care for him, dedicate ourselves to him. We havent even seen God....have we? Since we dont see him, we characterize saying that he is somewhere inside us...this is of course to give him some figure that we can realize or see.
If God is our ultimate friend, our ultimate goal, our ultimate master....lets bring him in, and pray to him in this biggest event influencing the life of those 2 lovable beings that advent to make their life not their own alone. Lets pray to God on your marriage.
On this, make a sincere and a grand prayer to God...an make sure you hear and understand all the words you repeat below, as you pray to God for your own happiness and your own being.
Prayer :
Oh Lord!
Today is a new beginning of life for me. With your blessings, do keep our way ahead green and gay. Do remain in the center of our married life, and also in the aim of our journey in life – always.
During happy times or sad days; in illness or storm of ill-fate; we remain together with trust and love for each other. Never do we happen to neglect the other or show dishonor. Never do we try to force our thoughts on other. I always respect the others thought freely and truly from my heart. I must protect him/her from any loneliness that the heart may breed.
Now we are not just travellers. In all stages of life, being together like real partners; is the cause of our life. Our love to each other; should be a medium to reach your infinite love; even if it is a small but important way of attaining you. Precisely so, we do not consider our relation a ‘worldly’ relation of rights; but a relation of friendship in the path of life’s journey. We do not depend on each other to put steps forward together; at all times in the journey of life.
If I ever become self-centered, you step in. You remind me of my loving partner to whom I have vowed to give my time, my energy, my concern and my support. Do not let us forget that marriage is a partnership that demands adjustments, acceptance, tenderness, tolerance, forgiveness and most importantly – generous doses of love.
We do not try to know each other too much – but we keep trying to find the other in the openness of lovable times. We do not forget the other – in ourselves – but actually find ourselves by knowing the other so well. Our love should not be a ‘chain of slavery’ for the other; but the 2 wings that carry the bird to new heights and farther – towards you.
We are two different individuals and will react differently to situations. Please remind us to respect the differences. Do not let us assume that our own way is better than the others. Teach us to learn and consider generous alternatives.
Oh Lord! Fill my heart with kindness and generosity. Give us immense wisdom and understanding to build a compatible and satisfying life. We do not live in a mechanical life of satisfaction in everyday chores; we always find the vastness of love in the other and let the life be a season of joy – all ever and all together.
Oh Lord! Teach us to communicate openly with each other. Let us risk being open with our deepest feelings, fears, joys and hopes. Teach us to share our successes, failures, our doubts, our dreams and our love with the other to the fullest. Let us realize each other through strong dialogue and come to appreciate our partner.
We do not engage ourselves only in the thought of happiness and security of our oneself; but we open new doors of opportunity for the other; love everybody he/she cares for. Whoever comes in the nest of our life should just get the blessings of shelter and care. A relation that is blossoming like a flower; that spreads its fragrance all around; is an important relation for humanity. Instead of being inter-mingled in each other’s destiny; we both stay together like two ‘DIYAS’ in the prayer-dish.
After long years of togetherness – when you carry away anyone of us; at that time let not the other cry in grief. Let him/her be satisfied with the memories of how sweetly did we live together; and remember that we reached the end of ladder due to each others support.
Today, on my marriage; I pray thus to you, Oh my Lord!
- Reader of this prayer
1. We must remove the residue of selfishness, thoughtlessness, just like how we keep our house clean.
2. We must repair it with patience and understanding, just like how we together keep our house well maintained.
3. Lastly, repaint it with trust, forgiveness and love, just like we keep our house attractive and peaceful.
Surely thus, the marriage is like owning and building a home sweet home!
What more could I say…..GOD BLESS YOU...!!
- When my heart speaks,
Chirag Khara
